Welfare and support

Do you or any of your friends need support or help in any area? St Mary's College and Durham University are committed to providing support for students and staff alike. St Mary's has an excellent reputation for providing high-quality student support to its student members. Personal Mentors, the College Principal, the Vice-Principal & Senior Tutor, the Student Support Administrator, the Chaplain, and other College staff form an integrated network of support in College. Departmental staff are also ready, available and willing to offer advice and help where appropriate. If as a prospective student you would like to discuss a support issue before you come to St Mary's College please contact stmarys.admissions@durham.ac.uk

How students support each other

St Mary's student body actively encourages students to look out for one another.

Are you concerned about a friend or fellow student?

1. Have they shared a concern or worry with you?
2. Have you noticed a change in their behaviour, maybe becoming withdrawn, sad, or moody? Or do they display unusual behaviour?
3. Have others around you expressed their concerns?

This can sometimes make you feel:

1. Uncertain what to do to help.
2. That as a friend you want to be there for that other person but find it affects your concentration, friendships and work.
3. Helpless but irritated and put upon.
4. Frightened that you might make the situation worse.

What can you do?

1. Let them know you are concerned.
2. Listen and try to find out what the person needs in the way of help (if any).
3. Acknowledge your own needs and limits. Supporting others can become too much of a drain on your own time and resources.
4. Offer names and telephone numbers of the people whom your friend could contact.

Remember; you can seek help on a friend's behalf without breaking confidence by asking people for advice without giving your friend's name.
It can be difficult and stressful supporting someone so look after yourself and don't be afraid to seek support and help from others.